Stop It: Blaming The Victim

My love for the Twilight Saga is strong, but that doesn't mean I'm blind to it's faults.

Is a 109 year old vamp digging on a teen chick sweet?
Is baby love, imprint or no, okay in my book?
Is obsessing over a dude 24x7 and ditching your friends acceptable?

No. No. No.

Is the relationship between Edward and Bella abusive? Debate it all you want. But don't debate this:

Is Team Edward Enabling Domestic Violence?

I'm a certified domestic violence counselor. I have been in direct contact with a myriad of victims of domestic abuse and their family members. I will literally shit a brick for you if one of them says, "But it worked out for Bella."

While the article itself makes no claims either way, the title's implication is this:

If you read Twilight, you may think the relationship between Edward and Bella is acceptable and you may stay in an abusive relationship. Therefore YOU, the VICTIM have enabled domestic violence.

You know what enables domestic violence? Dumb shit frakked up thinking that would rather put the onus for violence on the victim, on the media, on a kid's book or hell even on poverty, life circumstances, and troubled childhoods instead exactly where it belongs - in the hands of the abuser.

This is the same kind of thinking that was more obsessed with whether Rihanna would set an example for victims than whether Chris Brown would set an example for abusers.

Yes, I wish all abuse victims could stand up for themselves, but when they can't, don't be the one that slaps them down. They already have someone in their lives who fills that role.